And if you learn to nurture these seeds, they will yield a bountiful harvest. But if you don’t know what to do, you’ll end up wasting the opportunity you have. That’s where I can help you. Check the Kind of Relationship Improvement You Want Which of the following kinds of improvement do you want in your marriage or relationship?[...].
Imagine a couple in which a crisis unsets the status quo in the relationship. Often the submissive partner has a moment of conscious realization that the prevailing control or submission dynamic is no longer acceptable if the marriage or relationship is to be happy.
The solution of facing this discomfort is best summarized in one word: courage. Courage is the renewable resource that each of us possesses , even when we forget that we have it. And just as fear is the harness that keeps us tethered to unproductive and self-defeating behaviors, courage is the light switch that illuminates the new relationship that we can step into.
They subconsciously fear that the pain of changing their behavior is worse than maintaining the status quo.
And whatever the exact circumstances of the crisis in the relationship are, it becomes clear that some type of change between the couple must happen before peace will prevail in the relationship.
It can be like an undetected cancer growing in an unsuspecting patient. Why wait as the spot gets bigger and bigger? Do you really want to court disaster in your relationship? And if you choose to do nothing about it now, how do you know your marriage or relationship won’t silently pass the point of no return? To Partners Who Either Want to Be Less Controlling…Or Less Passive… But Don’t Know How A little-known fact is that both partners behave the way they do basically out of fear of facing change and growth .
This moment of crisis actually offers the best chance to change the course of the marriage or relationship because it is at this point of maximum discomfort for both partners that motivation to change may be at its peak.
Maybe the passive partner has reached a threshold in what’s acceptable to him (or her) and says to the other, “You’re too controlling.
You’re always bossing me around,” or something similar. Believe it or not, the partner who has been given this message has received a huge blessing. Why? Because when you get this feedback, you’ve been handed the seeds to a better, improved relationship.